Spin Cycle

[hopefulinga]

being friends helps me, it might be like a pacifier and I will give it up when I don't need it anymoree.

I have the same feelings. Part of me is having problems being friends because my H certainly doesn't treat me like a friend. Or at least how I see him treat his "other" friends. I told him early on that he was my BF and H responded "Well, you're not mine."

So I get the pacifier aspect. Like keeping some contact will be good for a while until you can stand completely on your own.

I'm glad that you thought about you in not going to the holiday function. And it sounds like you had a pretty decent talk with your H. I agree on the gf introduction. That is something I will dread, at least in the short term. I wouldn't want a bunch of gf's traveling in and out of my child's life. The S and/or D will be enough trama for now.