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[cantslowdown]

I guess the question with lying is have you/do you lie to him ever? My wife freely does now. She's not very good at it but she's going through what may even be mlc now. I feel like our mess is complicated but there's always a way. I agree that being able to check up does nothing for you. He has to become a different person. A better new person that you would want to get to know. It also takes true forgiveness on the hurt spouses part. That's the true miracle in a saved marriage I believe.