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That's certainly fair enough as we all have our own motives. My wife and I have both screwed up royally as far as I am concerned. I wish she hadn't had gone where she is in her mind and was closer to you (I've read. She won't look at a relationship book and her affair is just my fault so I'd better get over it). You are right that the lbs/was dichotomy is such that you could be either one at many different times without knowing it until someone says ilybinilwy. I just wish we wouldn't have been so willfully blind to what was so blatantly obvious in retrospect. With her actions I waver between feelings of wah and lbs. My Dr has referred me to a psychologist and I'm looking forward to that for myself to help control anxiety.