Wow, you soooooooo much like me its scary. I think the same way and feel the same way. My D is 5 and I will not allow her around OW at all. I do blame her as well she could have said no. She didn't have to pursue him, I know she did. She is a lonely little girl who saw an opportunity and pounced and doesn't care that a child is being hurt horribly. To me, she is an awful human being.
What have you been doing to 180? You seem so much stronger than me. I'm a huge fighter, and I desprately want to fight for H but I know I can't in the way I want to.