Dude - you pretty much did have a relapse. It happens, shake it off and deal with the fallout. I am not sure if you see it or not, but things like that really set you back a ways. I am speaking from a place I know (ask 25 or anyone else who has followed me).

Here's the deal - there is a skill and inner-strength required to not text and call - especially in the stage you're in at the moment. After she replied to your first text - just let it slide. If she texts you back on her way, great - if not, act like you don't care (I got good at acting). When I over texted W because I didn't get a response or a call-back I thought I wasn't doing anything wrong. Much later she let me know that she did not like the excessive texting at all. After that, I really felt like an a$$, because I knew she was right....I was chasing...pressuring.

****PRESSURE IS NOT HOW YOU DEFINE IT; IT'S HOW SHE DEFINES IT****

I never woke up in the morning and thought "I think I am going to pressure my STBX today".....but she sure as hell took it like that. It is hard to do, but look at things from her perspective....it will save you....a lot.

DM, I am going to share with you something that has really helped me along the way: break up with your iPhone.

I stopped bringing it out with me if I was with friends. If I am at home, I frequently leave it upstairs or away from me. When I go to lunch at work it stays on my desk. The benefits are many:

1.) It kept me from texting too much
2.) It kept me from looking at my phone hoping for W to text
3.) It forced me to be engaged with people when out

After awhile, I just got to the point where not texting a lot was much easier. And if I looked at my phone after 3 or for hours there often was a message from W. And if not, I was OK. iPhones (and the like) are the worst thing for DB'ing. And trust me - I was a chronic abuser....W pointed that out on the day she dropped the bomb.

Until you can get the need for a response to everything under control, divorce your phone! And remember that just because you didn't get the response you wanted (or a response at all) doesn't mean that your message was not received or appreciated.

Crimson