While for the moment I am only saying words that suggest new priorities (180s), it's been 6 months now that I haven't seen a mountain, jumped off a cliff. And she knows it, so it's not just empty words either.
Same with me, it's been put on hold b/c there is just so much going on in my life right now. Looking forward to getting in the air again though. How did you W respond to your hobbies? After some "jokingly" comments from my X I started understanding how anxious it made her from time to time. Only then did I realize how much the incidents/fatality to people close to me might really have affected her. It is after all more "mysterious" and unknown to them.
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Sometimes it sounds like a ploy, but hey DBing is A STRATEGY. There are even "techniques" in the book. I'm just more consciently applying them.
Yes, it does seem however that those tecniques are quite often connected to your W.
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I am not mad, I repeat, I am not mad, just disappointed. What I thought would be an eternal thing between W and I, is crumbling, and I can't seem to find the right things to do to save it. Something is broken inside me, and I feel it will take a long time to heal.
And I'm sure it will. I don't expect anything else from myself either. I'm certain I will stray from time to time and get some disappointments, but keep strong and keep going. That's the only way forward.
One thing we have to remember is that the people who do A LOT of the right stuff, who put in a lot of effort and work. They still struggle. We all struggle. How strong we stand, how determined we are, and (!!!) how open we are to take in new outlooks on life is CRUCIAL. We don't know it all, obviously, and we have a lot to learn.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
