We're both 38 so I don't think it's perimenopause or menopause, our drives are just different and always have been. This now gives her the out so it's not even brought up. Yes we met when we were 18 and dated on and off the first year and have been together since we were 19. It's amazing how much we'v both changed. I think that is one reason she's done some of the things she has over the years is because she never was on her own and she seems to think that's a good option now. I've never wanted that so I haven't had those urges.
Planing to meet W and kids today at post office to get their passports for cruise. For whatever reason the last couple days I've been really doubting if cruise was a good idea. I'm afraid it will just lead to more hurt for me buts it's too late now because kids are super excited. She originally said we could go to show kids we can be friends even if divorcing. She's brought up the friends thing since then also. I think next time she mentions it I'm going to let her know that I do want to become friends with her again in the context of marriage but because of my feelings I doubt we could ever be friends if we get divorced. May even tell her best case will be a business relationship only with kids. Do you think this is a good idea?
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