Well, to pass the time in my SSM, here's an amusing and irksome reminder I see every single day on TV.
All those Viagra, Cialis, etc. commercials -- All those happy guys who got their erections back, and their smiling happy wives who supposedly are delighted to have a functional husband again. Uh huh, yeah, right. Let me tell you guys, before you go to your doctor and ask if your heart is healthy enough for sex and you waste your co-pay on Viagra, you better ask your wives if they are interested in resuming sex. Because the stats are that about half of all women have a reduction in sexual desire after menopause. But the commercials are never going to say, "Ask your wife if she is ready for sex." The answer will be no in more cases than asking if your heart is healthy enough for sex.
I'd bet that Viagra sales would go up considerably if there were also a pink pill that could be prescribed for the wives at the same time.
Those Viagra commercials always make me laugh, because the ludicrous assumption is that all women can't wait for their husbands to have an erection.
There is a female version of cialis that causes increased desire in females. Also PT-141.
But if your wife doesn't want to want increased desire, there's nothing you can do about that.
They are for the other 50% that dont have a reduction.
Of course! Women who want sex are married to men with ED. And women who hate sex are all married to horny men who never had ED problems. What other way could it be?
They are for the other 50% that dont have a reduction.
Of course! Women who want sex are married to men with ED. And women who hate sex are all married to horny men who never had ED problems. What other way could it be?
GET OVER fixing your wives. It ain't gonna happen, man, I'm telling you. Love them all you want, but fixing 'em just ain't in the cards. It just doesn't work that way.
I could be wrong, 'cuz Lord knows I have been before, you've got exactly three choices from which to choose.
1) Do nothing and be miserable.
2) Take the next year, starting tomorrow, and completely concentrate your energies on yourself. (leave your spouse out of the equation)
3) Get out of your marriage.
I haven't posted (4873 post count) on DB for a while but my first post was 07/01/04. Nothing has improved and in fact things are worse. Books didn't help "ME" although my W said I was "nicer" for a while. My giver gave out and now I am running on empty. No sex since Feb 2012 and I quit iniating
My point is not much changes so get your plan together from one of the above 3 choices. Marriage counseling helps, sometimes.
Lou! It's great to hear from you. I'm sorry it's not better news. I'm back too, trying to get wiser along with the inevitable older. Sending you hugs. ((((((((()))))))))
I never expected you to reply, but so glad you did.
Our old group (Lil, Corri Mojo, tim2point0, Karen, Journey, Altdave, and a few others hang out on a private forum slj proboard. There is a public part so look us up.
Do you still live in the same area as when I was thinking about visiting you?
What is different in your life now?
I think DB is good for people that want to change but not so good for people who think they are right and ought to be accepted as they are.
There is a female version of cialis that causes increased desire in females. Also PT-141.
I'd be very surprised if this worked with any reliability at all. Women's desire for sex is so varied and complex that every drug tested so far has been judged to be practically ineffective. With my wife, for example, even liquor and a good time otherwise doesn't put her any more in the mood at all.
GET OVER fixing your wives. It ain't gonna happen, man, I'm telling you. Love them all you want, but fixing 'em just ain't in the cards. It just doesn't work that way.
I think that advise should be posted more often on marriage forums. I gave up on another marriage forum which adheres to a particular method which apparently has been succesfull for many other people. They claim a very high success rate, but I think some of that is due to the fact that if you haven't succeeded, they just say you just haven't worked the method long enough.
Sending you hugs. ((((((((()))))))))
