Wife's possible MLC....

[Dewayne]

Worried, I think I went to post on this thread the other day, but I'm on moderation.... so it may not have shown up yet.

Either way. Yeah, take it a day at a time, alright?

My wife hasnt' been cold in a long time really. Our problems started in August really, with the slight flirting etc with our help. Then in Sept. It got bad, had a blow up and separated mid Sept.

Asked for D on 18, our anniversary!! Paid lawyer on Halloween, WHEN WE CELEBRATE our Anni. ... sigh.

Been separated for almost 2 months? I live with a friend now, and she lives with her bro. I get my kid 1 or 2 days a week if I'm lucky. Now. She and I had been talking very little about the M, but she is still dead set on D. I gave her the signed papers on 12/12/12. I haven't spoken to her till yest. She called and texted, I ignored! FInally I told her in a txt I could take the kid yest. while she worked (had no one else) First contact. SHe shows up...

Well, it was weird! She came in and gave me a HUGE hug. Told me she was worried about me and I scared her. WTF? lol. Told her I was ok and just didn't want to be in contact with her. (She knows i'm at the resentment stage for everything she's done, still not much remorse yet, no real apology yet) She was very nice. But when she picked up the kiddo, it was colder. She only worked 5 hours. but she was sick too.

When she left, I had been feeling the resentment again and I wasn't as "warm" to her. She grabbed kiddo and stood there a min or two. Not speaking. So I walked around her, as I did she asked if I was ok. I half smiled and said "I'm fine". I opened the door and she walked out. Didn't say a word. So I thought "Pff... fine then"

Later I msged her on FB and told her she did good that morning and sucked this afternoon. (This is after a FB telling her she has to earn my friendship, respect and trust all over again) Anyways, she replied on fb... "I'm sorry. I thought you were walking me to the car, I was going to say goodbye then but turned around and you didn't come out. I thought you just wanted me to leave"

My point is this. Since we're "here" with our spouses... there's going to be a lot of assumptions and awkwardness that creates confusion. Just keep in mind, they may have expectations as well, and you may ruin it by doing what you think is right. Either way, I guess it doesn't matter. The communication grounds are shaky at best during these times. So keep your head up and hopefully things will start looking better again.

Good luck.