1. I should have not left her alone for my job while she was pregnant, we discussed and she said it was only a year and we decided I will travel every 2 wks. She travelled to me on couple of weekends.During this time she was close to my parents and sister and I thought that would help.
2. I would have just took money out of our arguments, I would have not made it equal share, I should have paid all, which I was doing toward last year
3. Could have had a better relation with her mom, called her regularly, sent gifts, wanted to know what was going on in her life.
4. There were things which W was thinking and planning, which I should have been more aware. I should have had better emotional connection.
5 . Should have recognized that she had anger issues and asked for treatment or counseling before a gridlock like this.
6. I would have had better attitude and made it lighter for her to work around me and her mother
7. I was adjusting but after a battle and argument
8. Would have had some job regularly and not stay home and appear less productive, while she was working for about 2-3 mths and being productive.
9. A little more upbeat and cheerful and fun loving, bring joy and be more sociable and outgoing
10. I would have took her to vacations in Bahamas or somewhere exotic
11. I would have done what every she wanted and follow her and allow her to make all the decisions, not sure if it is realistic
12. Could have cut the grass, the first time she asked me. Or did things the first time she asked......
13. Could have talked to her deeply and connected to see what she needed the most and provided it, 5 LL
14. Should have been a good friend and helper, which I was but respect was an issue which started deteriorating
15. Should have created a system to diffuse high tension arguments, looked for help out side us and made some thing accountable and have remedial recovery process.
16. Have some form of repair process in place, like couselling, family around. Close friends and couples to relate.
17. Should have had positive emotional bank account for longer peroids. And made sure it was never negative, act fast to make it postive, had regular checks to see the general health of this account.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
