I always think that the universe gives us what we need; in my case it was getting the flu. It stopped the spin cycle like someone pulled the plug.
In your case H is going away in January, giving you time to concentrate fully on every part of you and the kids. What a gift you have received. That is how you have to look at it. I understand because I just went through the same thing "How is H going to see my wonderful self if he is not here? How do I keep that connection?" What Forest said is basically, you think it won't get back to him? It will. The opportunity, I think to see the greater things he will lose requires a little distance sometimes.
My H was alone out here this weekend. Didn't really see kids-we were all busy. His SIL was busy on the weekend, he helped a friend out and then came by where I worked and stayed for 2 hours (I barely saw him I was busy). He looked kinda sad. Came by house next day on a pretext, and stayed 1.5 hours for coffee. Absolutley had to leave back to city, by 4pm after volunter gig. Was still out here apparently at 7.
So....a little perspective is going to be a good thing, Busting. Sometimes we forget that the WAS are very conflicted too. No matter what happens down the road, I have sworn to be in exactly the same place, whether it be alone, with H or with someone else. I would love it if I looked beside me and you were there too
