Boundaries are for You. To Protect your heart and keep you on the path you have set for yourself
They are NOT for the other person.
It was easier for me to set boundaries when I dug deep into reasons why I did certain things.
Start with why you over extend yourself. Don't get me wrong - I do believe that there are people out there who love to give. I believe that acts of service as a love language and think people just LOVE helping people.
But I also believe acts of service can be a learned "love". A way to be worthy or feel accepted. Sometimes people show this "love" out of fear.
I'm not saying this is you - but there are reasons why you get exhausted.
When the guilt starts - ask yourself why do you feel guilty?
Do you feel that people won't think you care as much? Will they think bad of you?
Why do you feel you must do everything?
Once you figure that out - you can figure out the best boundary to set.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
