Okay Busting, let's be brave and remain open to the world.
P called this morning to check in about the winter plans. We had originally been planning to go away for a few months, but she bought a place and decided she didn't want to be away more than a month. Today she's applying for a job and it's been sunny there so maybe she doesn't want to go away at all. But, then again, she's looking at a camper that's for sale. Or she might sign up for a course at the local college. She's looking at different scenarios and wanted to discuss it with me.
WTF? I was very clear that she should first decide what she wants to do and then we could discuss things. I mean, she had to move out because she can't figure out what she wants if anyone else is around (she automatically worries about what they want). So, I really don't want my thoughts to be a factor in her figuring out what she wants. That just comes back to bite me.
She at first was asking questions about whether I still wanted to go or whether it might not work out for me (Will it work financially? What about that roof leak?). Kind of like she wanted me to bail so she wouldn't have to. Later, she said she didn't want to leave me in the lurch. Oy. I cheerfully encouraged her to figure out what she wants and let me know when she decides.
After I hung up I wasn't so cheerful. Time to remember "believe none of what they say and half of what they do". Wow, she's all over the map. And I passed up a different fun winter adventure in favor of making plans with P. Time to close my eyes and figure out what I'd like to do, regardless of P. I'll still be happy if something works out, but I'm not going to use the word "plan" with P at this point.
