The things we are telling you to do will improve your sitch, but you'll get no kudos unless improving your sitch turns out to be the right thing to happen. And then it won't matter to you if we strangers give you kudos.

When you sound so manipulative, punitive, and arrogant, it is half-tempting to advise you to definitely call her at least once a day and fight hard in the court for your 50%, and go for extended-day daycare.

But maybe her leaving could be a wake up call and you could learn how to be a better partner in a relationship, and it will be good for your boy to have his dad around.

You know, you so want to give him your worldview, but if you don't learn to love him for who he is, with runny noses, poopy diapers, and limited language skills - now - he won't be listening to you later when your worldview could make any sense to him. You don't get to pick and choose which part of a baby's life you're going to impact.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.