Trying really hard to be Thankful today...

[Sweetbriar]

I did do some thinking today and realize that I probably over reacted in my own head about what H said. I guess its just easy for me to think that everything he says now is a negative towards me. I think I was sad that he was so uncomfortable just standing in the foyer of his home (that is not his anymore???) so weird! I also think that because I dont see him anymore, that when I do (maybe once a month) that it still brings up memories and feelings for me so I was sad when he texted D14 that stuff.

Yes, I do think that he continues to be inappropriate with D in the sense that he talks and texts to her like a friend. Its so strange that he thought he needed to tell her those feelings, like he had no one else to tell. I plan on talking to my IC this week about it again for suggestions on what to do. I also do think family counseling is a must in the New Year. My D's are very against it right now..dont want to have counseling with dad or with all of us, but it may be something that has to happen so these things can be brought up.

Adinva...I agree that I need to stop looking at everything as an indicator of H coming back...thanks for bringing that to my attention!!

Just a small update of the continuing weirdness of H....I received a text last night at 12:45am out of the blue. (I was in bed reading) and the text said:

H: Dont you have a boyfriend?
ME: What???
H: I thought you did
Me: Did you mean to text me? Random???

I didnt hear anymore from him and nothing all day today. Thought this was the most random text ever...in the middle of the night..asking that..from him??? My thoughts are:
1. He was out drinking and wrote this
2. Someone else wrote this from his phone (very unlikely)
3. He didnt mean to text me, but maybe someone else???

I just let it go and had a really nice day today at a nephews bday party with my girls! We bowled and I laughed a lot. Quite frankly, didnt think of H at all while we were gone except when D14 came up to tell me that he had texted her that he is burnt out with work and wants to quit! (he did put a winky face..so obviously kidding about quitting) and he said that he doesnt like his new part time job! Well...imagine that....he has worked it for only a week now and is already realizing that its gonna suck having to have the responsibility of 2 jobs and how much stress it will be. All so he can get his own place and be on his own. I wondered if it would hit him one day but NEVER thought it would be this soon...

OF course, weird again that he texts D this stuff. I just told her to let it go and have a good time...that she didn't need to worry about that right now. I never mentioned H again and on the way home she said to me "mom, I just don't get why dad tells me his problems...he is always complaining" and I just told her that maybe she needs to say that to him next time and let him know that she loves him, but doesn't want to know about every detail of his life.

SB