My wife wants to separate

[FloydMan]

You said it KLB…revisionist history is par for the course. It seems so surreal but it is for justification and validation. It is bizarre to be sure. I have learned not to debate this stuff anymore with my W in recent weeks. Sometimes it is so absurd you really have to hold back. I too have heard things from common friends. Petty stuff, like why I did not take my D-10 very much to gymnastics very much in the past 3 years as it is only 2 minutes away. Well, she seems to forget that the D-14 has had Fastpitch on the same nights across town 40 minutes away fighting traffic...and I also coached which she supported. She would drop D-10 off then go for coffee with the “girls”. No real participation. That is just one example of being in her own world. Some things are just outright change of history, like saying I kicked her out of the bedroom….she left the bedroom on her own. It is hard to bite the tongue, but I am getting better at it. Deep inside, I think they know they are off the mark, so instead of debating with them let them truly hear themselves and the absurdity.
Niceguy, they all call it ‘home’. I think my W does as habit more than anything. My W also not long ago made a point of “being so far into it” with reference to the legal process and that the kids already know we are S. They do get so far gone they can’t turn back. Telling her parents took her 3.5 months. It took her over month to take her ring off but they take some big and some small steps to get it done. I wish there were a sign of doubt in my W for my sitch.