W visited last night for tree decoration. A little background: always emotionally charged event for both of us. My mom deceased 2002, and her dad, deceased 2010 both made Christmas wonderful for us. Tree trimming time we both get sentimental, briefly melancholy etc. as those memories resurface.
My intention was for this night to be a chance for her to see the new me more, which is actually the old me from early on.
She arrived and S20 and I had tree standing, with lights. S16 babysitting nephew, D17 working.
The house was immaculate, full of Christmas smells, and fresh bread in the oven. Found a new recipe for shrimp, one of her favorites. Table set nice, w/poinsettia centerpiece. Handed her a bloody Mary after I took her coat.
The sentimentality did show up as we decorated...positive I think. feelings are still there.
Big positive I think, hope is S20 and W reconnecting. Now she knows she is loved by each member of the family, we all want her back. S20 kind and loving to her. Proud of him as usual.
Desert was homemade pound cake (another of her favorites) with ice cream and fried bananas.
Watched a little of a movie, she gave me a hug, and left.
Fewer baby steps this time, but still there. Shes hoping to visit briefly today. Also said she's trying to get things right to come back or some words to that effect.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
