How is it SUPPOSED to work?

[grebjack]

It's funny coming back to the boards after being away for a while - things that seemed to completely preoccupy me before are just no longer part of my life.

I never actually did the breaking bread challenge. I did ask a couple random people - a co-worker, a couple of complete strangers. I've had lunch with people at the soup kitchen, but there's a power dynamic there that probably makes it impossible for them to tell me to go away. I've shared meals with people who were formerly strangers (my pastor, other people in my DivorceCare group, a community activist at a fundraising breakfast I went to by myself where I ended up sitting with her...) but those aren't really the situation of having a meal with someone who has no role in my life - those were just the normal way you meet new people who then come to have a role in your life. I think in the cases where I was asking someone to spend time with me when I had no more reason to talk with them than I was trying to do this challenge, it felt weird to me and perhaps they read that, because they each turned me down, the one guy I asked reacted as if I were propositioning him.