Good Ruby. Keep it up. NC. Let him initiate. I hope he saw you flirting with some of those hot rugby players.
He did initiate. Came over to see if boots he bought D fit. We chatted (I look like crap lol, I am sick), I asked if he would like a coffee, he said yes.
We chatted about our lives, again he raised the "I move in with D" you get out thing but just said we disagree. Tried to say that commute is long and I would be cranky :P
I said that if you were worried then I would be happy for you to come out here evenings or we could switch spaces a couple of days a week-but neither of those are suitable of course. I remained calm and just said that he was welcome here anytime in the evenings. Apparently not an option either lol
I just replied that I have changed the way I interact with kids and will build that stress into my day and be aware of it. He replied, ya, kids say it's still up and down (I didn't say anything)
He mentioned moving apartments, I agreed that he would need a bigger one for all his stuff
He mentioned that D was not happy with him and I said she hasn't communicated too much before because of your job and living apart. She'll get used to it. H implied he communicated well in the past at least as much as he was allowed to (I let it go).
Talked about vacation in summer and how it would go-far away so I won't even think right now.
Said I was running a 10k at friends place in summer and camping there (we missed last year and apparently was a blast). He said he was too, is probably bringing gf.
Mentioned that the team leader wants him to buy a road bike and train. GF belongs to race team. H is not the athletic guy...has lost 50 pounds and is running and weights-but smokes and drinks lol.
Said he had to rent a locker in city for all stuff and I said,"yes your place is small for all those things from work."
Also, said I should come and run in city once and I said sure but he would certainly be faster than me!
No mention of GF over xmas-thank god, I thought that was what he was coming to discuss.
Very friendly, very nice. Talked about my phone bill. Long distance charges-he says oh to parents? I said no....
Good convo, I remained happy (as I could lol doped up on cold and flu). Not confrontational. He kept putting out feelers of I will buy you out of house, where will you be when you are down your degree, you don't have to stay here etc. I said sounds good, agreed with just about everything lol!!
Good start to a week, still NC, no R or emotion talks, fb off, emails off
