H said he'd think of dessert for our Xmas meal. I realise that I like being sole charge. I didn't want to dampen his enthusiasm but I'd rather be in charge. He probably won't follow through though...
I like being sole charge too!! I took on Thanksgiving by myself - gladly. It was turkey plus quite a few sides - 6 maybe. I get that! But I'd say let H help if he wants to.
Well, you can't mindread, but H of course felt HURT that you didn't come get him. It makes him think he's not important enough to you. My H would pull that crap all the time - he's hurt but it comes out like grump. Sometimes I was not in the mood to tolerate it.
Good for you on the hug. Any thoughts about initiating anything more?
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
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