Bruce, you should be thanking your lucky stars that you landed here and have these very patient wise people trying to help you grow as a person.
Because that is way more important than trying to help you save your marriage.
I have read all along and I sometimes wonder why anyone would be trying to feed you the words to say and the actions to do to BEGIN being anything like someone your W would even talk to let alone give her child to for an extended period of time.
If you went running into the court right now demanding 50/50 and setting up daycare instead of the boy's loving grandparents and claiming that your 2yo will take a week to adjust to what YOU want for YOU with no regard or understanding of what he needs...
Well, good luck. I would not be the judge you'd want on that case.
You should be filling your mind with information and education about child development, instead of claiming because you impregnated his mom you know what is best for him now. You should be working so hard to provide him what he really does need - a thoughtful good dad in his life.
Instead, you're creating machinations to force him away from his mother or force her to come back to you. It is all about what you want.
You should be sooooo loving that you'll let W have the space she's sought. You should be sooooo thankful of that little man her father and the mother who took your w in and are caring for your son. They are all mad at you, and your response is....to be mad at them back.
You should be humble, forgiving, loving, thoughtful, questioning, seeking, striving to learn what that little boy needs.... or else how on earth could anyone really be wanting to help you get 50% of time with him?
And if you want an outsider's opinion, what on EARTH are you doing lining up daycare? The boy has full time loving daycare with grandparents. That is where he should go when you're at work. What are you THINKING?
Hate to be harsh, but I would hate to see you reach your goals too soon, or your son will be the one who suffers.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
