Another thing ... As I was reading threads today... I think it was on the MLC forum... someone had written about what the MLC spouse is going through...there was a section on them feeling abandoned as children.

I thought of my H, adopted separately from his twin brother when they were two. His mother had already left and the boys were left with their dad. In the sixties, there was not a lot of support for single parents, especially single dads and he coulnd't cope so they were adopted. SEPARATELY!!! Abandoned by their mother and then abandoned again by their father. And abandoned by each other. And my heart just broke for that little boy. For both little boys. But especially for that little boy who has grown up into my confused, lost MLC H.

His adoption is an issue he has never explored and I think that perhaps he needs to.

Me46, H49, D17, D11
M22, T25
BD Dec26 2011
he moved out Feb29 2012