Hey, nice to hear you had a great time! Some extra attention feels good when things are low.
I'm not 100% up to speed on your sitch, but it seems complicated.
Like hopefulinga says, looks like you have some soul searching to do.
One thing comes to mind though, remember where YOU are in all of this. What you want deep down. I know that myself, I would feel more free to move on if I made the choice without being affected by some other woman(something unstable).
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.