<So I am wondering, if you had an opportunity to sit down with X1, what would you want her to know about the demise of that M?> Probably a lot. But the biggest thing that I think turned me off was how much weight she gave other people's opinions of her. She gave them too much power over her feelings. I should have told her that's how I felt. It seems small, but it really affects your perception of the other person...to a degree, and I know this sounds harsh, I would loss a little bit of respect every time she broke due to others perceptions...
<What do you feel was the most important thing you learned from the demise of M1?> I need to share my feelings, even if they are not so good, especially if they are not so good.
<What is one thing you would never do again, in relation to M1?> Well, this is easy, it's the same thing I never want to do again in relation to M1 or 2. I never want to disengage/escape. I never want to see something that I am unhappy with and do nothing about it.
<What would you do all over again, in relation to M1?> I would tell her in the nicest way I good that she needs to work to get her self-worth higher. Because this affected my view of her.
Take note: all these things are about communicating. It's not so much the tings I would do. I know what I wanted to see and change - I just didn't communicate it. Why? Well with M1 I didn't think it would make a difference...mmm, actually, to be real, I don't think I was prepared to deal with the backlash, with the headache that would come with it...
