So far I have taken one huge thing from this conversation thus far...I really didn't like it when you said I was trying to escape by doing all these new things. I don't think I am. BUT, I think I was escaping when I was disengaging. I never connected disengaging with escaping. But it so was, I so was escaping.
THAT is an awesome take away!
It is a fine, fine line, without a doubt. What we need to remember is that engaging our pain is as much a part of life and growth as engaging the things that give us pleasure.
Seeking pleasure to avoid pain... is natural... what we have learned societally is, it does not lead to growth...