Stuck between a hard place and the biggest rock.

[Big Bruce]

Good evening,
That's why I like this site. As I write out things, it appears in a new light. And your feedback often redirects me in the right path. Of course contacting her every day is not the thing to do: What was I thinking?
FYI, I went dark in September-ish for two weeks. W got even darker than me. No sign of life from her or anyone--> didn't work.

As for the custody of my son, that would be unfair to grant her more time than to me. It's not because she withheld him for so long that it means she cares more. For what reason should she have more rights than me?

For the moment, she's at her parents, and therefore her mum takes care of our son 24/7. It's not as if it was a big sacrifice for her either. "She's helped a lot".
Whereas me, if I have custody I will have to take care of him in the morning, drive him to daycare before work(if I have the spot..), go get him after work, take care of his meal, bath, etc... alone.. which one of the two will have a harder time? That's right, it's me. But I won't give up on him, and we'll keep asking the court for 50% custody immediately.
(that is why it is so important I secure a spot for him, even if it means paying for an absentee toddler in the first month...)


If she really can't support the idea of being separated to our son, there's a very simple solution, and I'm open to it: Move back with me! Simple, really.

B.