Kaffe, Im sorry but I don't understand the relevance of whether he's a WAS or an MLCer. Actions are Actions. Period.
I don't think he's doing the best he can because I've seen him do better WHEN HE WANTS TO. He's proven he can be a great father and co parent, WHEN HE WANTS TO, and the other times, if there's no crisis, he literally fades into the background.
And yes I do have expectations of him as a parent MLC or not. Granted I know they'll never be met, but yes I do have expectations of him as a parent, because he used to be a very involved father. He made the choice to walk out and become a part time father so he could find himself. He made that choice, and damn near burnt that bridge he had with his girls in the process.
He's avoiding the truth with his girls. The living situation with OW and him leaving is treated like the huge elephant in the room with the girls. The girls want answers from him, but are afraid to ask. He hasn't offered any communication what so ever to them as to why he left, why he moved in with this woman, nor even try to understand why the girls are so uncomfortable around her. She ignores the girls, and doesn't even acknowledge them and acts like a child herself trying to get XH attention when the girls are there. It's just a bad situation all the way around over there and Im damn resentful that he's brought our girls into that!
Because he doesn't acknowledge the girls feelings.... they are feeling more and more distant with him and don't feel like a priority at all with him.
