Good to hear from you, jb. Yes, at first blush it sounds like there should be a move to piecing, yet I don't think your W said she wanted to R. She simply said she wanted to review and see if that might be something to consider. There's a huge difference, there.
It's great to hear from you KD!!
Bingo! You have hit it right on the head. Or at least that's the way I see it, too. One of the big things I have to factor in, too, is concentrating on what I really want. I have built and entirely new life for myself. TBH, I would love to share it with someone. I have to figure out if my W is able and willing to get with the program, i.e. if it's similar to what she wants her life to look like, too.
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Take things really, really slow, my friend. Continue to be the new, best you. I have no doubt that you could eventually step into piecing as a better man and sharing partner.
Yes, that is the plan.
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You will need to take time to allow her to continue to step towards you, until such a time that she wants to actively work on R. Otherwise, this is just a false start which will simply delay the D direction the two of you were on, up until now.
Agreed. The worst thing I think I could possibly do to try to move things along faster. I believe that would inevitably backfire. It would feel like pressure to her. From her perspective, she would see a controlling JB that she wanted to get away from in the first place.
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Wishing you the best in this, and a very, Merry Christmas to you and yours.
Thanks, KD! A Merry Christmas to you and yours as well!!
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Take a look at how T^2 is operating, in his threads in MLC.
I'll have to check it out.
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He neither makes himself inaccessible, nor does he pursue.
He stands like a rock in what ever comes.
I think that might be a really good position for you to take, at this time.
I also agree with this, KD. I think this sounds like an excellent plan.
