Regarding her talking about OM, Jody (DB coach) has said I should acknowledge the comment but then say something like 'modern relationships can be hard' and then change the subject.
For the last two weeks (since the announcement of the fact that she is not in a relationship with him) his name has not come up once. What that really means is anyone's guess I suppose! Could be just trying to keep me placated.
When she moves out (small temp rental until May 1st) the communication will have to drop off a lot. I will be on my a-game when I do see her but the way things are right now cannot continue going forward.
The interesting thing is that the other week she said that she was scared to let me know her though process on this whole thing and that she didn't expect me to sit around and wait for her to figure all this out. She also at that time suggested that we could call it a temporary separation but that she didn't think that was the right thing to say seeing as feelings for OM were involved.
I'm hoping some time away from each other will help in some ways. Its been toxic under the same roof for the last 8 weeks. No trust, lots of changes and then me trying to DB in amongst it all and failing miserably some days with my emotions running wild!
I have no expectations at this point, only some hope that what I am doing will get noticed and maybe give me a fighting chance.
I know things are improving with us in general relationship terms and I guess I just have to be in this for the long haul. Its only been 2 months in all honesty but it feels like 2 years already!! As Jody said, I have to look at this like we are back at just being friends and work from there. We are at step 1 but I'm still thinking we are at step 3.
