Look, I'm not into who has the power, being manipulative, playing games, "making" her do anything. I am just speaking to what I have read from others. I have been working on myself non-stop and am doing it for myself. I like the changes I see in me, actually, I love them. But I also want to be realistic and honest. I have hopes and plans about other things I want to do in my life that have nothing to do with relationships. But I am also human and want to be connected with someone in a way that matters. I am looking to get a simple answer to a simple question. The response to this question will not alter the path I have chosen to take in my life. I am not saying that the response will not try to alter it, I will need to use the strength I have to ensure that it does not alter it. We all have goals. Some of those goals are just about me, some are about my connection with others. The question is: is me wanting to explore the potential of reconnecting my my ex-wife at some point in the future wrong? I am not asking if it is ok to make it my sole goal in life - I am not. I am simply asking if it is something I should forget about and not put any effort into at some point in the future? She is not the be all and end all. But I wouldn't be telling the truth if I said I did not love her. Things in life don't just happen. Us getting divorced didn't just happen and the potential of us getting back together won't just happen either. All of these things take effort and planning. Moving further in my career, making better connections with my mom and sister, making more friends - all these things take effort. Just as reconnecting with an ex-spouse would. Does all this make sense? Do you understand what I am looking for? Do you even believe what I am saying?
