There is nothing you can do to MAKE them want to come back.
So in the end, all you can really do is focus on yourself and become an even better person than you already are.
A thought about going dark is that the WAS has an opportunity to "miss" you. That's convoluted and leans towards controlling, or passive aggressive behaviour so that what you do CAUSES the WAS to change their course.
Going dark really has to be about you and for you. If you need to have absolutely no contact with the WAS in order for you to heal and move forward (not "on", that's different), then so be it.
On the other side of that, going dark "black holes" any potential "pursuit" behaviour that you might otherwise engage in.
Let go of any thought of who has the "power". You have the power... OVER YOURSELF... in the same way that the WAS has the power OVER THEMSELVES... neither should (does) have any power over the other, nor over the R itself...
