Spin Cycle

[mamabird]

Ruby.

You know how grateful I have been for your help and support.

Now it is time for me to help you.

Ruby, "Spin Cycle" is a great name for this thread. Because I see you completely spinning out of control. You are posting, posting, posting... and I know it's therapeutic, I have done it.

But please... just STOP. Just STOP. Breathe. Pause. Look around you. Stop worrying about H and OW and checking his FB and texting and emailing and thinking about coffee, drinks, or anything like that. You are out of control right now.

If it's possible, and I know it may not be, could you go "off the grid" for a few days? Somewhere remote with no TV, no phone, no internet = no distractions? And just BE? I think that would be good for your soul Ruby.

You are very caught up in all of this - all the minutiae - and it's not good for you Ruby. I want to see you calm, I want to see you "resetting" and truly dropping the rope with H.

As I have said on my own thread, I have started to read a book called "Why Talking Is Not Enough: Eight Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage" by Susan Page. It is very in line with DB principles but adds a spiritual element. If you can pick up a copy of this book, I'd recommend it. It might help you get to a point where you are truly at peace. And that is what I want for you.

big hugs Ruby!