I read a lot about "going dark" and not contacting and not telling them what you want, etc, etc. Is that really what must be done. Is it all up to them to make the first move? I understand not being needy, not bugging, not saying you will wait for them but what can you do? Do we really just go on with our lives and if they decide to contact us then we see what happens? Isn't this just giving them all the power? Not sure I get it.
