I definitely understand how you feel, Kimmerz. How he is trying to stay connected with them is, as I said, less than ideal.
With D10, I still have the time together. We both seek each other out, when we are in the same location. D15 actually does the opposite. All I had with D15, was texting. Now, she will not even accept that, from me. She's kept pushing me away, even if maybe she's been wanting me to pursue. All I know is, when I pursued, she kept running. Just like a WAS.
I am very clear that I am not MLC. Have not been, through this whole ordeal. I had been a WAS to some extent, until I realized something was (more than just) wrong, 2.5 years ago.
What I am getting at is, it is sometimes good to understand that, MLC is a different layer. A layer that sometimes sits over a WAS. And sometimes not.
So again, as I say that while how your H is communicating with your girls is less than ideal, underneath it all... underneath the MLC layer... whether he is ALSO WAS or not... he may simply be trying to do the best he can.
And...
It is OK if you are frustrated and done with that behaviour.
I can only hope that your girls continue to not give up on him, as a father and in regards to what ever future relationship with him may be, as best as it can be.
