Back when I started this journey, when I was completely desperate and searching for something - anything - that would help, I came upon this marriage guy who had a "workbook" and a "system" that cost like $400. I didn't want to commit to that, but basically his philosophy was to just ignore your marital problems.
What? Just ignore your marital problems? But I'm so angry and furious about it all.
It's counter-intuitive, but what we've been doing so far hasn't exactly been working... I guess the idea is to "rise above" your problems and when you create an atmosphere of harmony and connection they will resolve on their own or not seem so big.
How I wish I could convince my H of this... but of course we know that's the wrong thing. I do know that arguing in therapy has only pushed us further apart.
Tonight we are going to a party, then I'm going to another one afterwards. Originally we were going to take 2 cars, now it looks like we'll drive together and he'll ride home with the neighbors. I guess that's a decent sign. Last year he didn't even come to this particular party with me. I wish he'd come to the other one with me too, but I'm letting it go.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
