God Bless Sandi2. As always you make so much sense. I will lay off the gift but definitley not out of spite or punishment. She is sending a clear message. Though she did send my nieces and nephews some gifts....marked from my kids. My brother and I agreed no presents so she has gone against our agreement to not reach out to the others family. Tomorrow is her parents 50th Anniversary. I was going to send a card with my kids but maybe I won't now. They were always so good to me and often the kids come home after seeing them and tell me they hello and wish me well. They tell me they wait until my W is not around to pass the message. I was close with them. My wife was close with my family too. She always said and even to the therapist in tears that she loves my family more than her own. That is sad.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.