Just a quick note. As I read the earlier threads, it occurred to me, that what you are describing is "healing" still. I know, I've been there and sometimes still visit I think we all do to some degree.
Being able to acknowledge that a) it happened and b) you had a good marriage at some point, is huge in my opinion. And I suspect it goes both directions - your MLCr may hopefully get to the same point at some time in the future. They'll acknowledge (not to you!) that it was a good marriage for a lot of years. It wasn't wasted time and it wasn't something that didn't happen.
Personally, I remember those times with a smile. I look at the pictures (she left so fast she left those too even though I gave her the option) and smile. It took a long time to get to that point.
I get annoyed still at some of the antics and inconsistencies of her actions, but that's appropriate annoyance vs. off the charts annoyance for weeks. And even then I see it as sad that somebody who once was so articulate and "different" is an alien to me and in many regards to all that knew her.
I decided a long while back that I won't cheapen the time together or otherwise dismiss it. I don't wear the ring, but I have it. I don't display her pictures, but I have them. Those are my memories and I'll keep them. I think we all have to get to that point at some time in our journey. It's part of the healing in my opinion.
K, as for the behavior, let it go. He will do what he does anyway. Don't let it interfere with your life or your Christmas.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I think we all do to some degree. 