Sorry, two more things -- don't read the relationship books in front of her, and don't leave a pile of them laying around. Read those in confidence. Why? Because doing it in front of her is pressuring her to read them too, or discuss them with you, or engage with you, and no one likes to be pressured that way.
Secondly, start fighting your instinct to support her by withdrawing. If she's going to visit her sick parent and you don't think she wants you to come, go anyway. If she's taking your sick child to a doctor's appointment, make sure you go too. Don't be obtrusive, just be present. If she's going grocery shopping, go with her. Start training her that you are going to support her differently going forward. Start easing into that subtly, a little bit more each month, not all right away. Be smart about it, don't smother her, you want to gently ease into the frame until you have a role in the movie too, so slowly she doesn't notice that all of a sudden you're always where she needs you.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
