Wow, you are one strong lady. Glad I stumbled onto your thread again. I remember seeing your posts before but couldn't relate as I was still in the middle of the ciris; now that we are "piecing" I can totally relate.
My H is somewhat like yours - he has never left after all that OW/blaming/talking about divorce....and as of now, we are together but there is something missing....
I guess its how it is, eh? Just got to be patient and count our blessings.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go