Last night W would make some physical contact in bed. She'd put her leg on mine, etc. I pulled away. I really didn't feel like being touched by her, despite my love language being physical touch.
This morning I was about to head out the door for work. W was standing in the hallway, clearly waiting for me. In an effort to continue keeping my distance, I walked by her and said goodbye to S.
I turned around to leave and she was still standing there watching me. I smiled and said, "Have a good day." She looked disappointed.
She said, "You say you want this to work out, but you don't do anything. You don't snuggle, give me hugs, say nice things, or call/text to say 'Hi.' I can't do this myself." I responded, "Do you mean I don't do these in general, or in this moment?" She answered, "In general. Every night I snuggle your back as you face away from me. If you want this to work we both need to try."
I don't know what to do. Keeping space clearly makes her pull closer to me, however it also builds an emotional wall that protects me.
She's still secretive with her phone, possibly due to the unconfirmed OM (who's moving across the country in January).
I don't know how to proceed. Some days she seems to want to work on us, others she's very distant. She hasn't done anything drastic to show she wants the M. However, I've never really told her what she'd need to do to get me back.
Do I start making more contact with her??
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
