It will get better, mizjjd. The first year is the worst, but eventually you get sick of crying, sick of thinking about it, about him. I know, 'cause I've been through this cr*p for 7 years. You just have to find a way to drop the rope of hope. Have no expectations. Detach, and have strict boundaries. I know what you mean about the spouse being part of them, the part that they're abusing I might add. My H still comes home from his trips ... he hasn't grasped the notion that there won't be a home to come back to where I will be there, in a very short time.

Hope you get to sleep soon. I am awake because my D20 is having a party with her friends, and it's noisy. Oh well! Watching the Iron Chef which I enjoy, despite the fact that I'm not a very good cook. ;/


Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed.
D35,S/D twins28,D22
EA4/04 End? Who knows?
"Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim