3 Years after D-Day, part 2. Separated 9 Months.

[Am I Too Late]

I had a Scout Pack Christmas party to go to with my s last night.

It was mostly a good time.

Last year i was selected to play Santa Claus.


The Scouts Christmas Party was fun.....

Until i received a call from my W, which she became very emotional talking about our S.

Things have been going tough for her recently, financially speaking and also regret for not seeing our S on a regular basis.

She also said that she was glad that both of her parents were out of her life now, actually premising that with, she was glad they both died. By that she meant that their dysfunctional influence was out of her life and now she feels she is finally getting to discover who she really is.

She says that the only thing that is keeping her together, talking about no purpose in life, is that she is looking forward to having our S overnight the day before Christmas Eve, so that it wouldn't interfere with the Christmas Eve and Christmas Day family party's me and our S will be attending.

She also said once again that her OM, who she openly finally called her bf, will not be around when my S will be there, even though that did not happen on the previous 2 visitation occasions.

But, she said that the time may come soon that she will officially introduce our son to him because things seem to be headed in that direction.

I guess they must be discussing getting married. Then she mentioned that he was a nice guy.

Prior to the deeper portion of that discussion, i suggested a program that i didn't name that reconciles differences in couples and stimulates better communication techniques through the dialogue method.

I was referring to an upcoming Retrouvaille program that i discussed with the coordinator the other day.

She said that the suggested time frame at the end of January might be considered, but she wants to get through the Holidays first.

For the most part of the conversation, i just empathized with her feelings and in particular, validated that i understood what she meant when she was discussing her parents.

We may pick up the discussion about the retreat after the Holidays.

I am slightly apprehensive and fearful, but i didn't voice those emotions.

Apprehensive about actually getting her to entertain going to Retrouvaille.....

And fearful, because her lease should come up at the end of January or the middle of February. Due to her financial struggles and that she mentioned that the OP has been helping her out with cash to pay some bills, i sense that she may move in with him at that time.

I'm not sure if she would actually follow up on attending that program if that were already planned, and even if she did, what good would it do? Her mind will be set with a move like that were to become a reality.

She was disturbed that i didn't notify her about tonights Scout Christmas Party, but also conceded that she probably would not have been able to be there anyways because her cars transmission went out. Her OM loaned her a truck to use though, so she can get to work.

I stated that i had previously continued to text her about all events that our S was involved in, but she stopped responding, so i was giving her the space from me that she wanted.

I pointed out how better communication would benefit all of us for the sake of our S. That is when i mentioned a program that works with couples who are married, separated and even divorced that could aide us in that respect.

I did mention to her about how much her life has changed since she started drinking about 4 years ago. She didn't immediately want to consider it, but said she will think about what i said. At the same time though, she felt her changes are finding out who she really is. She did say though, that she has 3 different AA books on her nightstand.

Also, she mentioned that she was reading through one of her moms old journals earlier today, and i got the impression that she finally was angered at how dysfunctional her mom was. In the psst, she used to cling on every word uttered snd written that csme from her mom as if it were Gospel.

She did say that she felt we were getting along better as friends at one point though. I don't know what to believe or think.

Sheesh, I'm pretty exhausted trying to remember this all accurately, so that's all for now, unless something else pops into my head.