Thanks all for the encouragement! Good to hear there's hope. I think so, too. It's just so frustrating that I can't get her attention.
I've almost finished Sex-Starved Marriage. I've listened to Fighting for Your Marriage by Markman, Stanley, & Blumberg. Also Four Seasons of Marriage by Gary Chapman, and I'm almost done Chapman's Five Love Languages Men's Edition. And I've several other books from the library waiting to go next. Never read any of this stuff before. Didn't think I needed to. Now I wish I had.
Yes, I'm seeing the same things you're all suggesting. The idea of acting first has come through quite clearly.
I'm trying to figure out the love languages we've got. Elements of each seem to be there. It's hard to tell even for myself. As for her, I can't tell what she likes. I think I've tried out each language in recent weeks before I even read the book. Bought flowers for first time in years, several chocolates. Words of affirmation, verbal and by email, also something new for me. Touch, peck, cuddle. Some extra chores. Offered quality time but that hasn't gone anywhere. But I can't tell if she likes any of this or is just being polite and putting up with it. I guess the trick is to keep it up for awhile.
