Just caught up on your posts. Sorry you are here. Our sitchs are somewhat similar--M17 yrs, T20yrs, 3 children (although mine are younger). BD was almost 6 months ago. And, I too cry almost every day. I hurt deeply every day. There is OW in the picture too.
My H has said similar things--He's "in love" w OW. ("In love" is just a fantasy-based/initial stage of liking something about someone & wanting to be around them a lot... it never lasts. It can't.) Obviously your H's R w OW is not going to last, but in the meantime you need to take care of yourself.
Seeing your dr for some A/D's might be a good idea. I am going to see mine next week, esp to get thru holidays. HOlidays will be tough for all here. They will be different for sure. Try to find something...even one thing...to do that is for YOU, that makes YOU happy during the holidays. I'm taking my boys to see the city/park lights tomorrow night!
Come here often. Lots of us do/will. Know that what you are going thru is typical for a LBS. Lots of hugs to you!!!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.