Thanks for the advice snodderly and SA. I contacted a lawyer a week ago when H got paid and we got nothing. He says his paycheck was messed up. Whatever. He said it was straightened out on Monday. Did we get any? No. Did I ask him for money, no. My lawyer is filing a petition for legal financial separation. Yes I live in the US. She says we won't get to court until the end of January. I have enough money without using credit cards until march.
My OD who is about to be 21 skyped messaged with her Dad yesterday. She had questions for him. It was a big deal for her to "talk" with him. She asked about the OW. He has never admitted that the affair is still going on. He actually gave her the truth. Says he's already in Sweden. I figured that out all ready. He has been there since the beginning of December. OD asked if he was going to be here Christmas to see her and sister. He said he can't. Why? Because he's already in Sweden. Geesh!! She asked if he would be here for her 21st bday that is 4 days after Christmas. No. Because he's already in Sweden. She asked him if this OW means more to him than she does. After several comments going back and forth, he finally said no. So D said," then come home for me." He says,"I can't". He has shattered her self worth. She believes she is completely disposable.
So, after she told her sister (17) what their Dad said, there were tears all around. It was so terrible. This man is devastating everyone in his path. He is a complete stranger to us. The Dad they had, never missed anything that was important to us and most definitely never missed Christmas and bdays.
I went by myself to the mall to pick up some gifts. It was so difficult. I barely made it out to the car before I burst into tears. I'm trying to be strong, but this unbelievable sadness just overwhelms me at times.
