Thanks Tori2012. It is good advice, and I read it again. It is so hard to detach, doing 180 and Last Resort. Maybe it is coming off as punishing or too distant. It is so hard to gauge. I want to be nice, talk, do things for her (bring coffee etc), do things with her…make her feel good. She wants no part of any of that. I would love to make her feel good about herself. She ignores me. She would not even look at me on my B-Day the other day. I guess getting her a Christmas present would be a bad move. Or is it not about not making her feel bad about herself and not good about herself either. Complete indifference? I am not intending to make her feel bad about herself, but she is likely taking it that way. Is that her guilt?
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
