Gator Girl, that's a crock, and I know you know it.
I just wanted to chime in too and let you know that my XH said many similar things to yours. Many, Many, Many. And it helped me to read your situation and remember that my XH in MLC sure the heck isn't the only one that follows these scripts.
My XH too went into MLC after a very traumatizing 6 years, and it all started with my mom dying. He started getting really weird after that and took the death of my mom harder than I ever expected. 6 month later his grandfather unexpectedly died, then 3 months later he almost lost his own life resulting in him losing his job he had for 15 years. A about a year and a half after that he lost his grandmother.
So the death of someone close most definately is a catalyst for this MLC. Oh nd XH left 2 times prior until the final exit resulting in divorce.
I agree you sure seem to have a goo grasp on the situation, no matter how painful this is.
Im glad you decided to post! We're all here to help eachother anyway we can. Believe me this isn't your typical run of the mill separation/divorce scenarios. This MLC Business is the bootcamp of your emotional/spiritual life!
