My H just walks into this house and acts like he still lives here. Helps himself to the food, leaves his dirty dishes, has his shoes on, etc. But I refuse to nag at him. I'm trying to 180 and stay dark but his non challant attitude about what he is doing is so frustrating, its hard to keep my emotions in check. I did a good job tonight when he was here, but I need to improve. I know the "180" list pretty well but does anyone have any specific tips? Sometimes I wish I wasn't here when he visits D but on the other hand I am extremely anxious about him being along with her because of his head space right and comments that he has made. And I'm also worried about her and the way she thinks if she pleases him, he will come home. Since this started, he has only been alone with her twice (and only because it was my decision to leave the house, he has made no effort to spend any alone time with her in almost 5 months now).
I'd like to make some changes at christmas this year but it would mean changing things for my parents and H's parents and they have been extremely supportive of me so I don't want to do that to them. So I'm not sure I can do to make it more special for just me and D and our puppies.
