Well Antonia, I guess what it really boils down to is that these men were the love's of our lives.
Period.
I had my first love, but husband was the love of my life.
I know I was my XH's first love, but love of his life, it's hard to say. Honestly I think I am, even if I am tooting my own horn a bit. He won't ever find another like me, that's for sure.