What I am learning from H stages.

[albamarie]

-i don't get if she's EVERYTHING - why the heck not chuck me , our life & get the heck over to her place and immerse himself in the wonderfulness of it all. why torment me? why equivocate- if i felt total wonderful bunderful LOVE for someone else- i'd just have to go. decency -

how do people DO this to each other? i still can't let go- but i don't want this either- as usual- stuck in the mud

Maybe if he still needs to be around and talk to you it's because he really isn't getting everything you think from ow.

I know mine is just "friends" with ea, but not one ounce of contact with ea it ok with me. It does totally suck to think we have to be there for them at the same time while they figure things out. I'm not willing to do it, it told him I will waw from this.

I'm weighing out weather or not the ea sitch is worth going no contact with H, or at least pulling back enough for him to understand that I will not have a R as long as he is in an ea sitch. But, he's not stupid he already knows, he just doesn't care.

I say if it's eating at you, you need to figue some things out for yourself. Don't be nasty or rude, but don't be available, find what it is your doing different that pisses you off when he's there, and do something different.

Set a boundary...you don't have to tell him, but make sure it's to make you feel better, not to put it in his face.

I want my H to reach that point were he asses what he's doing and what he will continue doing knowing what I am going to do. His words so don't go, I don't want you to go, but I won't stop you because your right.

His actions say I am not going to give you a reason to stay because ea is my friend I will not stop calling! Meanwhile, I am burning with hatred for ea, him and my life w/him!

He could say anything out of his stupid mouth, actions speak volumes and I have been ready to move on with a new OP for a while now, so WTF am I even listen to his depressing confession for, humm! I am so clouded by ea that nothing he says sticks with me.

All of the things he has come forward with and how he compliments me means nothing to me, as long as there is an ea on the table. Is this the wrong approach, I have no idea!

I am not going to carry him around like baggage stopping me from moving forward in life and finding a man who will love me, and not be dragging his own baggage of OP. If I weigh it out today, waw is worth more that staying with this baggage.

I will not be with my own H as he has baggage of an ea he met 18 months ago, and refuses to let go. Funny how such little time can wash away so many yrs!